You can't force people...

There are many things in life over which we have some level of control and power. If we work at visualizing what we want, and we routinely practice positive thinking techniques and work towards our goals, we can achieve what we want.

But when it comes to controlling the heart or actions of other people or bending them to do your will, we have no real control if they want something different. You can't force people into what you want, what they don't want.